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Many celebrity couples such as Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness after 27 years of marriage have ended relationships along with Meryl Streep and Don Gummer ending their marriage after 39 years and the Bill and Melinda Gates who split after 27 years of marriage creating an evolving discussion regarding trends. Grey divorce across the United States also increases compared to previous generations with one out of three divorcees older than 50 based on Journals of Gerontology: Series B data released in 2022 . AARP provides several live workshops and access to valuable products to members including magazine subscriptions with discounts on items to help with life changes related to many areas in adult life.
Suzy Brown a 78 year old divorced her husband after 33 years due to his long term affair starting an online site Midlife Divorce Recovery that addresses the complex challenges of such break ups with written books as well. Experts such as Rachel Mirsky explain affairs happen as the spouse does not make same demands as a married partner adding they don't ask about financial matters and regular life chores and responsibilities therefore there is different view of such partnerships. Rachel Mirsky a Certified Divorce Coach offers guidance in Rochester New York assisting with complexities facing relationships today that may or may not lead to separation.
The National Council on Aging says over 80% of older individuals don't have adequate funding for unexpected money related situations however the issues stem not only with the amount but the differing perspectives around the meaning of money. Experts like Karen Covy divorce coach and attorney from Chicago note savers see money as security while spenders often see money as a pathway to freedom that might be major issues causing problems within the structure of the relationships that is very difficult to fix over long period. When partners share diverse financial outlooks this often breeds conflict if unchecked. In many cases financial responsibilities do not get split among many partners.
Often, stay at home partners face financial pressures with one partner often asking the other to rejoin workforce while stay at home partners might not wish or are able to return showing conflict around expectation from both sides. Experts agree a tipping point occurs if a spouse pushes another to their limits creating an unsolvable gap and these problems must be resolved when they arise rather than after waiting over many long period. Karen Covy a lawyer offers guidance with various cases that revolve around financial differences and impacts with separation and marriage over the years for different types of couples.
The Gottman Institute has identified destructive communications as part of long term marital breakdown using four Horsemen of the Apocalypse including criticism contempt defensiveness and stonewalling that is often first visible during arguments between couples. Contempt has been seen as the largest single predictor of impending divorce for various types of couples across many backgrounds and this idea must be acknowledged and actioned upon if there are hopes to keep marital bonds together long term. There must also be proactive work in nurturing the relationships beyond common household needs. In San Diego in summer of 2019 Dan Tricarico 61 divorced after 24 years of marriage discovering that family life overshadowed each other’s person al desires with both husband and wife leading lives that did not connect and were often independent. He eventually moved out in 2021 despite initially wanting to come together during a covid pandemic to salvage what was left.
Bernadette Murphy aged 61 after her 25-year-old marriage stated herself and husband simply had always been ‘a poor fit’ with years of simmering unease she felt and after husband resisted efforts to try and engage with therapy and after many attempts to save marriage she chose her personal wellness over long term commitment to failed relationship. Mirsky states people that are often unheard tend to feel less loved in their marriage bonds which often becomes reason for separation as those core tenets that might keep marriage stable over time such as being heard and respected are eroded.
Relationships often fail if intimacy goes beyond surface level conversations and any form of passion often goes away. Karen Covy notes sex not defining intimacy but if intimacy is totally lacking sex will typically go away. Over long stretches in relationships couples fail to ignite passion or keep those important relationship elements in balance allowing malaise that creates more disconnection . Often there is a tendency for an outsider to come into the relationships causing affairs due to these unmet needs. Many clients feel that an intimacy element disappears leading to the split of the marital bond with partner completely unwilling to engage even with a spouse. This can cause the partners to find intimacy with another individual who was previously not involved in their personal lives while ending relationship with prior spouse creating hurt from many sides. After years of unresolved arguments and conflict partners tend to be exhausted where arguments become nonexistent not from acceptance but lack of care leading to a serious problem in marriage and a need for different path forward that no longer involves the same people. Empty shell marriage refers to relationships that simply exist in name where both members have very limited connection.
Susan L Brown codirector from Bowling Green State University states many older adults won’t settle in empty marriages where relationship connection has failed and will more actively look for options to fix the problem or make the necessary difficult choices when options become few. Many life experiences mold a persons belief system and lifestyle choices causing many couples to diverge due to change in perspective and viewpoints that may cause more strife. Experts such as Covy claim growth personal development and changes in spiritual or emotional pursuits can all push couples on separate pathways. Covy said many partners who retire and spend all their time together often don’t even know each other highlighting different lives lived when separation of duties such as long travel often occur that is hard to reconcile when retirement occurs. Dating apps have given easy options with meetup groups adding to ease of connecting to many different people creating ways to engage in solo hobbies rather than doing group events that were common many decades prior when marital unions first began for many people now seeking divorce. Mirsky claims there are more methods to fill one's time making couples choose separation as option when they feel limited by past traditions and that have lost core element of partnership for different values. Brown explains marriages are seen for personal gains more nowadays versus old times with far higher standards for marital quality now and expectations.
The breakup of trust causes divorce as experts state the loss of trust can be virtually impossible to ever repair completely with time not always making up for broken bonds. Nicole Rochester 54 hosts podcast Your nEXt Chapter saying core values were broken when she split with a 28-year spouse which lead her to be untrusting to make decisions and questioning all current relationships . Nicole Rochester states such betrayals cut deeply and change a person completely making a sense of orientation hard to find during these challenging circumstances. Covy claims when a person has life threatening illness the other partner has to support in very concrete and present methods such as with going to medical appointments also helping at home. Many health issues push partners away creating fear instead of unity creating broken trust as one feels completely abandoned due to this new reality as medical treatments create a whole new relationship with very different boundaries between the two people causing a deep reevaluation with relationship often ending at this difficult moment. Experts urge for a prepared statement similar to those seen when a celebrity divorce occurs to avoid public statements that add to the difficulties couples endure. They note during grocery store encounters people can politely say thanks for respecting privacy to create healthy boundary among busy body neighbors.
Often with many sick people that recover from ailments their personal views have changed drastically and when partners are unwilling to change with them those relationships end since core foundations were shown not to exist anymore. Robin L. Flanigan has published various news articles regarding this topic of life shifts as author from various well know publishing sites that deal with difficult challenges and provide insight into issues related to marriage over many decades. AARP a nonprofit organization provides programs aimed at older people to choose their lifestyles helping make choices easier through live workshops and provides assistance in adapting to these major transitions that require new ideas and a fresh start as needed. It has provided guidance with various methods including helping connect people over common hobbies while also offering methods to pursue individual exploration of personal pursuits such as gardening and group card games in local community settings.
Hugh Jackman split with wife Deborra-Lee Furness after 27 years which they described as shifting priorities from their joint statement in 2023. They said how the family unit was and will always be their highest priority while going onto next steps individually following their long marriage since 1996 when they first met on set of Australian series Corelli. During many press meetings the ex-wife had spoken about Hugh Jackman acting like she was having ‘affairs’ during his on-screen appearances since he played varied characters with different styles on TV sets over various projects in which Deborra noted she did not necessarily recognize him all the time. Town & Country Magazine featured some quotes regarding the differences of opinions and his very public persona often created more stress on their relationship. Hugh Jackman’s ex-wife noted she loved all his forms showing an acceptance of all his unique characteristics with her unique personality shining through in how she spoke about her prior marriage. Since the 2023 breakup Hugh Jackman has been seen with new partner Sutton Foster and The two were first spotted in Santa Monica during January 6 showing very happy and open feelings among each other after ending a separate ten year marriage of Sutton Foster to Ted Griffin the writer.
Both Hugh Jackman and Sutton Foster have split from prior relationships to confirm their romance early 2025 after starring in 2022's The Music Man Broadway play between December 2021 and January 2023. Sutton Foster described Hugh Jackman as one of greatest guy she has had privilege of acting alongside showcasing a level of respect for the professional capabilities plus kindness in working together which further solidifies their connection. Their initial meetings were reported on Seth Meyer's talk show in May of 2022 where it was shared they also saw performances from each other many years before actually working in the production where both stated admiration and respect between the two professionals . Hugh Jackman also supported Sutton Foster showing up at many performances of her Broadway production while promoting her shows as a friend and colleague with photos emerging online as well as on print media. PEOPLE Magazine often featured much material of the duo during various productions while giving background info about both stars and family histories creating engaging context for readers.
Various news outlets such as Fox News Digital provide extensive material regarding both actors and news reporters such as Christina Dugan Ramirez often shares information regarding new development among relationships and also shares background details related to relationships in general with a critical eye to evaluate how situations change due to media influence. Hugh Jackman and ex Deborra-lee Furness had publicly mentioned the decision to split was to help their personal growth in new ventures as individuals also offering that they appreciate and want respect regarding privacy matters since that time has now shown new connections and pathways and choices. Deborra shared on the May of 2024 film screening that she needed this growth opportunity while describing experience as scary while she had relied on friendships showing both personal strength and unique views on life experiences as she navigates her journey as an individual moving forward.